There comes a point in every romantic relationship, when you look at each other, sigh, and finally say the words that inevitably must come: “Let’s not do anything for Valentine’s Day this year.”
Is your sigh one of defeat, or one of relief? A question many have yet to answer.
A hallmark of any romantic relationship, the ‘giving up on Valentine’s Day’ is up there with the beautiful milestones of the very first ‘I love you’, the first time wearing your old, grotty pajamas to bed, and that first noticeable fart in front of each other. You know, the small, important things.
Stag and I had our moment just this past weekend. We were browsing in my new favorite San Francisco store (Rare Device, if you’re wondering), admiring the beautiful decor bits for sale, when I spotted the pink-and-red cards out in full force. Like a cartoon, I slapped my forehead in panic. “I completely forgot about Valentine’s Day!”
Stag, looking at something else, barely registered what I’d said. Mumbles. “Yeah, that.”
Me, staring. Cocks head to the side. “So…we’re not doing anything for each other for Valentine’s Day this year, right?”
“Fine by me,” Stag said, big grin on his face. I think his sigh definitely fell into the ‘relief’ category. ”
And with that, after over 2 years of marriage, Stag and I reached a new point in our relationship.
I know what some of you may be thinking. “How sad is this!” “Are you guys happy?” “I get enough misery from Twitter thanks, why did I even come here?”
The thing is, though, this milestone actually stems from a place of pure, wonderful happiness in our relationship. Stag and I are so blissfully contented and — most importantly — thoughtful of each other, that we don’t need Valentine’s Day to do something special, particularly a contrived need for special.
In fact, if you asked us each on a given day, we’d respond with, “Above all, I just want them to be happy, cozy and loved.”
And that’s what the ‘Giving Up on Valentine’s Day’ peak in your relationship really means: that you have reached a point of selflessness and love to not warrant a day to need it.
So, this Valentine’s Day, on Stag’s suggestion, I am treating myself to the gifts of Comfort and Happiness. Nothing epitomizes both of those two things for me quite like a beautiful set of the softest and most comfortable lingerie.
White Rabbit New York are a brand I fell in love with on Instagram. Not only are all their lingerie pieces ethically made and sustainably sourced, but the brand spends a lot of time and resource giving back to the community, even donating a portion of every sale to charity.
And, of course, the lingerie is beautiful, soft and stretchy in the most comfortable way imaginable. My Minetta Set has a certain sports-luxe look to it, and since receiving it, I’ve consistently reached for the underwear each day and have barely taken off the bra. Considering I work from home daily and often open to go braless, that is one serious feat.
Also, I’ve just discovered their Boobies Set in nude, I am seriously in love. What a perfect Valentine’s Day gift to yourself (or to me, please and thank you).
Other things I plan on doing for Valentine’s Day are treating myself to Sunday market flowers, a new Spring-scented perfume, allowing myself the time and space to read a good book, and enjoying a quiet, calm moment to myself.
Investing in my lingerie, investing in my home and investing in myself are the three things that bring me the most comfort and happiness.
So now, the important question is: what are you treating yourself to this Valentine’s Day?
What are you doing for Valentine’s Day this year? What do you think of my assessment of the holiday? Have you reached the ‘Giving Up’ stage yet?
*Lingerie set is courtesy of White Rabbit NY. However, all opinions, thoughts, and ramblings are completely my own.